It can be extremely difficult to wait for a court order, particularly when the outcome seems clear and obvious to you. Understanding what you can and can't control is essential to limiting your stress from the uncertainty of the process. Here are a few tips and things to consider.
Ask questions. If you have an attorney, ask him or her what to expect and request updates about the progress of your case. If you don't have an attorney, consider reaching out to Court Administration or the law clerk assigned to your case about when you can expect an order or ruling on an issue. Contact Court Administration if you need help understanding a procedure you've been asked to follow, or consult with a lawyer.
Stay in communication. Maintain a reliable phone number and email address so that the Court, Court Administration, and others can contact you with updates and information. Sign up for text and email reminders provided on most notices of hearing. Respond to requests for information from the Court, Court Administration, and your attorney.
Consider what you can and can't control. You can control the level and tone of your own communication, what information you provide, and the diligence of your participation in court. What's out of your control is the actions of others, including the other party's words and deeds and the court's decisions. Understanding this can save you immense time, trouble, and stress.